Navigating Faith’s Crossroads: Balancing Arrogance and Mercy in My Imaan – Seeking Guidance

Arrogance – I’m a victim of these fake “Rules” of Islam engraved into my mind by the voices of speakers as well as “fake scholars”, which has created an arrogant form of Imaan rather than the pious method.

I was once a person of firm conviction. However, this caused me to think that even if I make a mistake, I could be forgiven.

After an injury, I returned to Islam after a time of irresponsibility.

Instead of beginning with people who taught mercy, I listened to those who did not. But I lulled myself into believing that this must be true faith because when I had the merry outlook on life, I sinned, and thereby, it is true that EMAAN is forcing me to commit the highest level of deeds;

I was aware of the truth behind my former compassionate outlook on life. I’m still awestruck by this memory; however, perhaps Satan is using it to tell me that to attain peace and tranquillity, you must be a bit hard on yourself. I’m aware that Islam offers mercy; however, my old sins try to tell me that I’m deluded and that peace and tranquillity are not a part of Islam.


In this counselling answer (Arrogance):

What is required to have a healthy imaan? The balance between the three pillars of hope, love and awe of Allah.

Find someone who draws close to Allah, feels you are a more virtuous Muslim and wholesome human being, and inspires you to work positively towards the deen.

Learn from the model of the Prophet (peace be on him) and learn more about Allah by His name and characteristics.

Salam alaikom wa rahmatullah,

Thank you for your time. From what I’ve read, you believed that should “Islam” become too merciful and compassionate, it could be too permissible, thereby making you more susceptible to the sin of your life and guiding you away from it.

You claim (Arrogance) that you have an ardent faith, but you made mistakes, and today, you want to live the stricter rules of Islam and be harsh on yourself to achieve peace and tranquility. Yet you “suffer” from Imaan’s arrogant method instead of the compassionate one.

My role isn’t that of a scholar but a counsellor, and I will do my best to address your question from a counsellor’s perspective. In the meantime, find answers in our other section, Questions About Islam.

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Focus on the Quran and the Word of Allah

I think it is important to concentrate only on the Quran and the words Allah is saying in it. It is a fixed thing that is not changeable since they are the words spoken by Allah (SWT).

As you mentioned, there are sheikhs, teachers and sheikhs, teachers, etc., i.e., “humans,” each with their own way of life and approach to spirituality and faith. Some will focus on specific aspects, and others will focus on different teachings.

Allah Says My Mercy Prevails Over My Wrath

I’m not talking about Quranic interpretations but rather about how we view faith, which is a part of our characteristics. However, this is only one of the essential things because what Allah communicates to us matters.

What is needed to learn for a healthy Imaan is the balance between faith, love and anxiety about Allah.

He is The Loving One, Al-Wadud. You must be in love with Allah, placing all your faith in Him and trusting in His guidance. Be aware that Allah also loves you and will be available for you in times of help.

“If you should love Allah, then follow me, [so] Allah will love you and forgive you your sins. And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.” (Quran 3:31)

Also, you must be afraid of Him. It is to be aware of the consequences and the difference between right and wrong and do your best to avoid doing wrong motivated by your “fear” of Him.

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“O those who believe, be afraid of Allah as He ought to be revered …” (Quran 3:02)

To counteract the fear you feel, need to believe in God. Trust in His mercy, as well as in His justice and forgiveness.

“And do not lose hope in the mercy of Allah, for no one loses hope in Allah’s mercy except those with no faith.” (Quran 12:87)

He understands what’s inside your heart and what your limitations will be about accomplishments, and He will undoubtedly overlook your flaws If you’re sincere about your repentance.

“Do not give up hope in Allah’s mercy for Allah certainly will forgive all wrongs. He is the Most Merciful, All-Forgiving.” (Quran 39:53)

Too Much Fear

When someone is experiencing too many fears and no faith? Your worship could be precisely what you call it: abrasive and oppressive like it doesn’t allow human error.

It can be manifested in anxiety about the mistakes you made as well as a type that is a kind of “arrogance” or judgmental attitude toward those who don’t perform everything perfectly.

Too Much Hope

Arrogance – What happens if you’ve too much faith? Maybe that’s the meaning you are trying to convey when you affirm that Islam’s compassionate and merciful ways caused one to “sin,” and you believed that this could not be acceptable.

It is a sign that the person doesn’t have enough faith in God (taqwa) to keep away from committing sins because they are too trusting in the mercy and forgiveness of Allah. It could make you slack when you worship, be negligent and more prone to commit wrongs.

The Middle Path and Arrogance

I’m confident, dear brother; you will see that the truth lies in the golden middle. Allah is All-Powerful yet All-Merciful at the same at the same time.

You must push yourself and try to be your best at worship without aiming for perfection or setting unrealistic standards.

Everyone makes mistakes, and it’s a lifetime journey. The image of our lives fluctuates upwards and downwards, and no one is always high.

If you try to push yourself too much, you can become exhausted. Sticking to the middle path and gradually building your knowledge and understanding is preferential.

In this way, you can avoid the other extreme, not paying attention to your faith and obligations and ignoring your sins easily.

Who to Follow

I suggest you study Islam from trustworthy sources as well as from those with whom you share a common interest.

Select someone who brings you close to Allah, feels like you’re a better Muslim and a more wholesome human being, and inspires you to work positively towards the deen.

However, it is preferential to stay clear of those whose words cause anger, hatred or negativity and have a tendency to judge.

Although their statements may have truth, they may make you feel further away from Allah when they concentrate on negativity and criticism.

Use this for your acquaintances and family members, whether in person or on social media. Pick them based on the same guidelines.

A Prophet (Peace rest upon him)

The best example is the Prophet’s example (peace come to him).

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Study his search, and you’ll see how he could be the kindest, most compassionate, and most firm person. Allah was delighted with him.

Follow his example and adopt the characteristics he highlighted for us, the believers.

Learn About Allah

Arrogance – Find out more about Allah by looking at His name and characteristics. This will allow you to understand His power and deen and aid you in gaining more taqwa for your everyday actions. Take a look at this series for examples: Gorgeous Names of Allah: Explanation of Allah’s Name Allah

I hope these tips assist you,

May Allah aid you in finding peace and tranquillity within the faith,

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